what do we want?

Dear readers, today I would like to comment on how our desires get misinterpreted by ourselves many times.

The excellence in any field comes from dedicated effort, as we know. How somebody gets this dedication? Dedication comes when someone is clear about what he/she wants and give enough priority to what exactly they want. One who is clear about what he/she wants, it is possible to put pin pointed effort, as to achieve wanted things. There is only success in life always, if following concept is understood clearly.

What exactly we want, is most of the times wrongly manifested by ourselves. Our perception of what we want, is so obscure, many a times. We never realize, what actually we want to be in life. Or we build psuedo(falsehoods)'s around what we want and proceed in the direction of psuedo's. Result is, we finally end up getting we dont want. In fact, this also has an intricate explaination. When someone says he/she didnot get what he/she wanted, if you examine closely, they didn't want to get succeeded in thier missions. They actually wanted to repent after, not getting "so called" wanted things. Why this happens? You may really wonder, why somebody would like to fail? There are hidden reasons. They didn't want to succeed because, in a remote corner of thier mind, they feel they are not worth it, or thier intention basically is to hear somebody praising them, as a looser but still abler than winners. Many people dont want to succeed because, they have fear that, after success, they would no longer be themselves as they are now. In those cases, they actually want to maintain an identity than getting success. So many. Mind is too smart and excellent in creating pranks for life.

Let me give an example. One of my friends wanted to become a great cricket player. He, practiced hard, and got into good teams around our locality. Got good name in cricket. It went upto some years. In those years he got good recognition as a player. Later his interest suddenly started fading. He would not go to practices. His performance got worse, if he was given out, many times he would get angry etc. Gradually he, was thrown out of good teams, for whom he was playing in past years. But, why this happened nobody knew. I had been a silent spectator for his ups and downs and some day had a discussion on what he actually wanted, and finally it turned out that, actually he wanted to get recognized. As he got recognized, his actual want of being recognized has been already satisfied. Otherwise, basically, he is not interested in cricket. So, this is how a pseudo builds up so much that, one forgets his/her actual wants.

So, final question is, should we repent? I really wonder when somebody complains that he/she didnot get what he/she wanted. Or rather, usually I start interrogating what exactly he/she wanted, and why he/she is pretending to be not getting the ones they wanted. This is a common problem, and may be if, this problem doesnot exist, life also may sieze to exist.

Finally, what I want to convey is that, we never need to worry about, what we are now. We actually wanted to exist like this due to some reasons and desires at some remote corner of our self. Thats why every one of us is here like this. Only thing we need to concentrate on, is, to be truthful to ourselves, and head towards what exactly we want, so that life becomes much simpler. And the other is, we can be useful to make others realize how happy and lucky they are and they have been.